Workplace Languages of Appreciation
The wisdom of the “5 Love Languages” isn’t limited to personal relationships; it also holds relevance in the professional world. Although often associated with romance, the fundamental concept revolves around building connections. Dr. Gary Chapman introduced these languages in 1992 and has consistently been a New York Times bestseller since 2007, marking over 15 years on the prestigious list.
For those interested, an online quiz with 30 questions can provide a colorful graph illustrating how each love language manifests. While not explicitly designed for the workplace, it does provide an understanding of preferred ways of giving and receiving appreciation in a professional setting.
- Words of Affirmation. Expressing acknowledgment for others’ efforts goes a long way. Offering intentional and specific words of validation, in a one-on-one meeting or “shout-outs” to colleagues in group settings, shows recognition and appreciation. This language contributes to the company culture and emphasizes appreciation and gratitude.
- Quality Time. Given the multitude of demands and technological distractions in the workplace, being present can be crucial. Small acts like removing or turning over your cell phone during meetings or gatherings signals engagement. Do airplane mode, silence alarms, make eye contact, and practice active listening to embody the essence of this language of appreciation.
- Receiving Gifts. Small gestures, such as giving a gift card, flowers, or a treat, can brighten someone’s day at work. This thoughtful expression of kindness doesn’t have to be extravagant; something as easy as a coffee or a noted favorite candy, goes a long way. Consider this language to acknowledge important milestones for others or when you recognize someone is having a challenging day.
- Acts of Service. Rolling up your sleeves and participating in team ventures can bring so much. From alleviating stress to demonstrating empathy, this language of appreciation fosters a supportive team environment. Whether tackling a coworker’s small, uncompleted task or asking others how you can be of service, what may seem small could be so much more.
- Monetary Acknowledgement. Finances are essential components in our lives. Companies can show how they value and appreciate their employees in the workplace through bonuses, a matching 401K, health benefits, consistent performance reviews with raises, and other perks. Develop this language of appreciation by consistently showcasing your contributions, learning new skills, understanding what benefits are already available, and thoughtfully asking for what you need. A sometimes uncomfortable topic, this two way street of reward could be easier to navigate when your feeling of appreciation results in company give back.
And introducing a 6th one…
- Inclusion. While not originally part of Dr. Chapman’s framework, this language of appreciation, inclusion, deserves consideration and has been a focus for many companies in recent years. Actively creating an inviting space in the workplace is crucial and recognizing that only some feel a sense of belonging is the first step. This involves being mindful of who is included, being curious and learning about others, developing empathy, giving others room to create, and ensuring inclusivity in daily interactions. This language taps into self-awareness along with team dynamics.
The workplace can be complex, with various relationship layers to build and maintain. Developing meaningful interpersonal skills helps navigate team dynamics and demonstrate effective leadership. Starting with the Languages of Appreciation is a good way to begin being present and connecting with others authentically.
